You are beautiful!!!

So I have been thinking a lot recently about how girls view themselves and why we are so hard on ourselves when it comes to how we look and how others perceive us. Why is it that girls think they can only be happy if they have a guy paying attention to them. I cannot tell you how many girls I have known that have told me, "I will like myself better when I have a boyfriend.", or "All my troubles will end when I have a boyfriend." As well as "I am so lonely. Why does no one love me and pay attention to me?"

I am a firm believer that to be happy in a companion relationship you must first be happy with who you are and who you may become. You must be happy with who you are. You must be willing to forgive your past mistakes and see them for what they are. But I also know that to be happy in this life you have to have sincere and true friendships. You have to have people who truly do care for you and love you for who you are. If you were to go through this life friendless and alone then yes you would not happy. No one can get through this life alone or you would suffer many consequences.

I feel for those people who feel that they are truly alone. I know how it feels to feel alone. I went through years of feeling like no one really understood what I was going through. Where I felt like I had no real friends. Where I truly hated who I was. And most recently, part of 2014, I really had lost who I was. I was helping my brother everyday with his kids, working full time, and school. During this time I had forgotten to focus on myself. And there were days that I felt so useless and non-important. That what I did to serve those around me meant nothing.

During this time, there were times that I had forgotten to turn to Christ for help and support. I wanted others to have pity for me when I was forgetting about the one person who could help me more than anyone. I had forgotten about my Savior so I had also forgotten to love myself. I was even growing to hate myself and to give up. There were times that I turned to self pity. And times where I asked myself, "What is the point of trying anymore." and "Who will love me when no one cares about what I am going through." At my lowest point, where I cried myself to sleep for three days in a row, I finally turned back towards my Savior. I turned towards my scriptures and trusted in Him and His path for me.

Girls and boys.... In closing to be happy in a relationship you have to be happy with yourself. Your troubles and your self esteem issues will still be there. You have to work through those and tell yourself that you are worth it and you are beautiful every single day.